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Posted on: Friday 06/08/2018 02:35:12

A year and a half ago I connected with a friend of a friend on FB. As we became more familiar, we went from FB only, to email and WhatsApp, as well. We became very close. Over two weeks ago she unfriended me, and stopped responding to email and WhatsApp messages. 

I didn't know what to think, then began to think the worst. She has a very violent ex. Every year on their wedding anniversary, he breaks a restraining order and tries to get his hands on her. The first time he did, he beat her badly. She was pregnant, and he punched her so hard in the stomach she lost the child. The second time, he broke into her apartment with two friends. They held her as be beat her badly, stabbed her in the shoulder and slashed her abdomen with a knife. In front of their young, autistic daughter. Their anniversary was three weeks ago, and she sent me photos of the psycho being arrested in the street in front of her apartment. Based on that, I have been watching the news for her area online, hoping to not see something terrible. I haven't.

Since I came here she had mentioned in an email that perhaps my moving and new life didn't include her in my mind. When I had heard nothing for a week, I emailed the friend of a friend. I have known her somewhat closely for about 14 years from a depression support web site. I asked her in a FB message if she had heard from my friend, or knew of anything happening with her. I told her I was getting pretty worried. She said she knew nothing. 

It's been a week since that exchange with that friend. I went to message her again today. I found that she too has unfriended me, just in the last two days. I am totally puzzled. I don't know what the hell happened, or what I might have done to prompt this. Losing the long-time friend like that out of the blue is really strange. I just don't get it. 

  • kittenheel Says:
    Lesson one of web friendships: people flake, and people lie. I'm not saying either one of them is lying, but one reason people disappear is when they're afraid of being found out in some way. /homepage

  • lunamor Says:
    ^ Yep. Maybe I'm too cynical but...yeah.

  • knifeboy Says:
    I understand what you are saying. However, I can't think of what either of them would be afraid of being found out about, or what they might have to lie about in the grand scheme of our relationships. We shared secrets with each other, all three of us. We were that open and close with each other. I can't figure what made them both slam the door shut on me so to speak, no warning of it coming, no clue as to why. But then, I have been guilty of naivety in the past. I'm not going to torture myself with this. I don't think it's worth it with everything else I have going on right now./homepage
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